I think we spend too much time thinking about what another person is thinking – what’s their motive, where are they going, how do I fit in? Unfortunately I found most people either to be very self absorbed, where everything is about them, and they take, take, take; or they are givers who are self sacrificing and never thinking of themselves.
Deep in thought and introspection, I realized why this is… I’m a giver, and I’ve given with my whole heart and soul, which I always thought was a good thing. I prided myself on my generosity and patted myself on the back because of it. Feeling good and super human, I gave, gave, gave, until I had nothing left to give. My epiphany was, as a selfless giver, who else was I going to find and attract… a taker needs a giver – a giver needs a taker.
As Goldilocks wandering out in the woods, searching to find her “just right” place, home, food, chair, bed, life, etc. I realized that it’s not about them, it’s about me. Why didn’t I love myself enough to think about what is best for me? What was it that I wanted? It didn’t matter what they were thinking or what their motives were, I couldn’t control them, I only could control me.
As I started taking care of myself, I became happy again, and started attracting great people. People who are both givers and takers, as in most things, what is usually best or “just right”, is somewhere in the middle.
It’s good to give, but it’s also good to receive – not taking or giving, too much or too little.
Just a thought…
Creating my “just right” life…