Happiness Begins Here – Yoga – The Art of Living Life – A Life Filled With Peace
When I ask someone what does your perfect life look like, or what do you want for your spouse or children. The short answer always is ” to just be happy”. Happiness is what everyone wants. It’s the ultimate quest in life, and yet it’s always here for us. All we have to do is to decide to be happy. I know I’m making it seem way easier than we make it to be. We somehow have let the thoughts in our mind trump what we can realize our actual reality that is.
For instance, let’s say your a teen age girl, and a group of girls are over on the other side of the room. You begin to hear them saying things like how funny you dress, or how you’re so short or so tall. They make fun of your laugh, how you talk, and they just continue to go on and on, as they laugh and giggle. The problem is that we have somehow conditioned ourselves to allow our feelings to become hurt, and then we allow self doubt to enter our mind about who we are. We become sad, upset and depressed. Then we replay the conversation over and over again in our heads, and we start believing. When our only true fault is listening to them with anything other than detached awareness, and with a knowing of who they are. I know it can be hard when something is said that we believe resembles something that we feel bad about ourself, (which we shouldn’t either – let’s show a little compassion for ourselves – people!) Like feeling too short or too tall, but again it’s only in the mind, in our perception. Because the reality is that everything “just is”. There are many things and people that you’ll be able to find that are much shorter or taller than you, or people who dress like you and those who don’t. Who care’s – we are who we are – own it, be proud of you and celebrate yourself as a unique individual.
Remember it’s only words that were spoken. Don’t allow the words to hurt you. Don’t let them play over and over again in your head. They are not going to physically come up off the page, or out of someones mouth and come over and hit you on the head. Have the awareness that they are only words. Have the awareness that you can detach from the word, you don’t have to let the meaning affect you. Know the source, remember the source, remember who they are, be kind to them and carry on. We get to realize that our reality is that they still have some work to do, and that we are just fine. We obviously have enough money to eat, and a place to sleep, if we have enough money to own some sort of electronic device to read this blog. In fact, the fact that we can read should be celebrated. So in essence, at the most basic level, we are more than fine. Start becoming more self aware. Monotor your own thoughts, shift them to the things you have to be grateful for, shift them to the life that you want to create. Hold your vision to that thought. Keep walking the path of your dream, and celebrate the uniqueness of you. This is where happiness begins.
Oxford Dictionaries defines daydreaming as a series of pleasant thoughts that distract one’s attention from the present. But here I was at the beach watching the sunrise, and yet I was having a hard time being present. How many times do we do that, allow beautiful moments to pass by without experienceing the whole. So today my morning meditation became to sit, feel, watch and observe. As the sun was rising I noticed the ebb and flow of life, ever repeating, as the waves rhythmically came in and then went back out. I notice my breath doing the same… The sand felt cool beneath me, as I began to become warmed by the sun as it continued to rise. I made the connection to the opposites, aware of the waves coming in and out, aware of the rise and fall of the breath, and the hot and cool of the sand and sun. Reminded at the same time of part of Newtons laws of motion, for every action there is and equal and opposite reaction; and, that a body at rest will stay at rest, a body in motion will stay in motion unless acted on by a outside force. We move through life mostly robotically, just moving through the motions that we’ve set in place. Even when our intention is good, like me going to the beach to meditate, becoming present to what is, allowing myself to just be. Being so caught up in the silent internal meditation that I felt that I needed to do, and then allowing myself just for the pure pleasure of it, to be present with all my senses to that which is truly beautiful, and not just by the visual sight of it. I felt happy and content, aware that I am living the life that I had always dreamed of. I’m sure, it started as a daydream, and a knowing of the life that I always wanted to live. But just like Newtons law of motion suggest, I had to change to get my different results, not by a physical force, but by a mental shift.
I’ve been living in my home for about three months, before I had the epiphany to meditate at the beach instead of my home that is still in the process of being remodeled. Why it took me three months to realize this – I’m not sure, but it may have been because my home is where I have always meditated before. I now live about a mile away, close enough to walk. But thank goodness I had this sudden realization when I did and the months didn’t turn into years. It didn’t cost me anymore time or money, but just an awaking to the motions that I’ve set in place.
So I ask you today, after you finished your daydreaming, to become so mindfully present to your actions that your going through right now, to the simple awareness – with eyes wide open – of what can you do differently right now by a simple shift, to make part of your dream a reality.
The wound is a place where light enters you – Rumi
In life, you never really understand something, until it happens to you. My heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to the families, and children, affected by the Sandy Hook Elementary shooting in Newtown, Connecticut. And, even though I can’t really understand how they are coping or feeling. My hope is that they and anyone in life that’s having to handle a very difficult situation, to feel and connect, with the beat of their heart. To remember – you’re alive. Your alive for a reason. Be the change. Let the love and light enter, and fill you up. Let the love fill your heart. Please Keep Moving Forward, and, May Love Always Fill Your Heart.