Happiness Begins Here – Yoga – The Art of Living Life – A Life Filled With Peace
When I ask someone what does your perfect life look like, or what do you want for your spouse or children. The short answer always is ” to just be happy”. Happiness is what everyone wants. It’s the ultimate quest in life, and yet it’s always here for us. All we have to do is to decide to be happy. I know I’m making it seem way easier than we make it to be. We somehow have let the thoughts in our mind trump what we can realize our actual reality that is.
For instance, let’s say your a teen age girl, and a group of girls are over on the other side of the room. You begin to hear them saying things like how funny you dress, or how you’re so short or so tall. They make fun of your laugh, how you talk, and they just continue to go on and on, as they laugh and giggle. The problem is that we have somehow conditioned ourselves to allow our feelings to become hurt, and then we allow self doubt to enter our mind about who we are. We become sad, upset and depressed. Then we replay the conversation over and over again in our heads, and we start believing. When our only true fault is listening to them with anything other than detached awareness, and with a knowing of who they are. I know it can be hard when something is said that we believe resembles something that we feel bad about ourself, (which we shouldn’t either – let’s show a little compassion for ourselves – people!) Like feeling too short or too tall, but again it’s only in the mind, in our perception. Because the reality is that everything “just is”. There are many things and people that you’ll be able to find that are much shorter or taller than you, or people who dress like you and those who don’t. Who care’s – we are who we are – own it, be proud of you and celebrate yourself as a unique individual.
Remember it’s only words that were spoken. Don’t allow the words to hurt you. Don’t let them play over and over again in your head. They are not going to physically come up off the page, or out of someones mouth and come over and hit you on the head. Have the awareness that they are only words. Have the awareness that you can detach from the word, you don’t have to let the meaning affect you. Know the source, remember the source, remember who they are, be kind to them and carry on. We get to realize that our reality is that they still have some work to do, and that we are just fine. We obviously have enough money to eat, and a place to sleep, if we have enough money to own some sort of electronic device to read this blog. In fact, the fact that we can read should be celebrated. So in essence, at the most basic level, we are more than fine. Start becoming more self aware. Monotor your own thoughts, shift them to the things you have to be grateful for, shift them to the life that you want to create. Hold your vision to that thought. Keep walking the path of your dream, and celebrate the uniqueness of you. This is where happiness begins.
Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes. – Thich Nhat Hanh
When you mindfully move through out your day, you live with awareness. Aware of how you move and breathe. Aware, as if it’s your first day on earth. Become in awe of how it feels to walk, to wash your hands, to smile, to laugh. Amazed at the brilliant blue sky, the flowering weed, the trees, the cars, the sounds. Everything is brilliant! And every time you can bring yourself to this place of awareness. You realize how easy it is to recognize happiness in what you use to believe to be the ordinary. There is no drama playing in your head, because your busy looking at the present, consistently, with new awareness.
Living in the past or present robs us of our time. We should bless the past with faith that the past is success, somehow working for our favor, with lessons and growth.
Then forget about it – It can not be changed.
Bless the future with a knowing that the world is somehow conspiring for your benefit – Believe.
Then forget about it.
Let it all go! Live in the flow and fully in the now, and get ready – expect to receive. Now is the accepted time, Now is the time to act in the present. Here is where you find happiness. Here is where you find peace.
So,…just a thought… maybe every time you wash your hands, let it be a reminder to come into the present. Notice the action of turning the water on and putting soap into your hand. Feel the water whether it’s warm or cold. Feel your hands rubbing together as the soap bubbles become larger and larger, allowing the velvety softness to caresses your hands. Feel it, and embrace it, from every perspective. Allow yourself to mindfully begin living in the present.
Birds flying high you know how I feel. Sun in the sky you know how I feel. Breeze driftin on by, you know how I feel. It’s a new dawn. It’s a new day… And, I’m feeling good. -Lyrics for Feeling Good by Leslie Bricusse and Anthony Newley
When I teach my Yoga classes, I ask all my students to set their intention or their Sankulpa, before we begin our practice. A sankulpa is a statement formed from within our connection to our higher self. It’s a statement to be honored above all, because it guides us towards our higher purpose, our best self, and helps to guide our choices on our path. But it’s more than just a statement – it’s multidimensional.
Your sankulpa could start simply with the intention, I want to quit smoking. But, your sankulpa, created as a positive statement in the present tense could be I’m so grateful that I’m smoke free. The statement requires no resolve or will power but a becoming or a knowing of who you really are, and evolving to the true sankulpa of –I am healthy, I am whole. It’s a realization that you already are it, a believing. And, so for awhile we walk side by side with this knowing of becoming, and being, at the same time. The longer we can remain in this state of oneness, the faster we are able to become one with our statement. One way I find that really helps is to think of your statement with gratitude. Go ahead and think of it…, now, think of it with gratitude that it’s already true! -… powerful right?
So we continue walking on this path side by side, mindfully aware of our sankulpa, and mindfully at every opportunity acting inline with these goals. As we move forward we remain at peace, content, and forgiving when necessary, of our actions and of where we still currently are. Always, remembering and acknowledging however, that you are already healthy and whole.