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Self Care – Being Selfish – Helping Others

I had a conversation the other day with three generations of women.  Kara who is twenty, said she was worried about her mother who was stressing about her grandmother and grandfather.  The grandfather is an alcoholic and in his old age has become an angry drunk.  The grandmother is the good southern wife staying with her man, through the good and bad.  She is scared though, and  the daughter, her husband and three children are also scared for her. As are her two sisters and their families.  So much time an energy is spent on this…

We all have obligations in the role that we are in as spouse, child, parent, friend, etc. Being “the good person” we support our family member in need. The support from abuse of drugs and alcohol, fiscal responsibilities, and poor health. The choices of one individual affect so many, as in this case – about 12. However, some of the time our help doesn’t help, and we end up hurting ourselves.

So if you still presume to think that taking care of  yourself is a selfish thought,  you can look at it as helping your family,  so that they won’t have to take care of you.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Having a perfect life in a perfect world…

Self Care – Do you care for yourself?

Do you take care of yourself?  I mean – do you really take care of yourself?  If you were to look at yourself as a hired manager of your life, would you want to fire yourself or give yourself a raise?  Do you feed yourself the right foods, giving yourself the perfect fuel?  Do you exercise to keep yourself healthy, which allows for you to live your life without limits?  Do you take risks with drugs or alcohol?  Do you allow yourself time to rest, when needed?  Do you nurture yourself during difficult times?  Do you respect yourself and those around you?

Have you been consciously living your life or are going with the flow of what is next on your list of things to do.  Graduate High School – check.  Graduate from college – check.  Get married – check.  Have 2 children – check.  Retire – check.  STOP at any time!

You are the manager of your life!  Pretend if you have to, that you have been hired, and that it’s your job to do what’s best for this person’s life that you are managing.  Think – What am I going to do today, to help make this person live their fullest life?

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

GoldilocksBlog.com

Having the perfect life in a perfect world…


Wearing of the Green – Saint Patrick’s Day!

My earliest memories of St Patrick’s Day is littered with memories of boys and girls running around saying-“you better be wearing green, or you’re going to be pinched.”  I think this was one of my first introductions to flirting. They’re were more conversations, and interactions than usual, as the boys chased and the girls screamed.

Today, and years later, I am still running around.  This time, in my mind, about a man.  It has nothing to do with wether I am wearing green or not, but about a conversation I had with an old love. What do you do with a man who is all wrong for you, and all right for you at the same time? A relationship where your passion and ideals, fit so perfectly, that it’s beyond compare to any experience that you have had before. So perfect – that it’s like a real life fairy-tale, where in your perfect Goldilocks life, this is the feeling, an experience, that you want to have with you always.

It’s hard because the good is so good, that it makes it hard to turn away from or to understand.  The reality is that we don’t have to understand it or turn away from it.  We just need to accept and enjoy how it is at this moment, and keep focusing on what we want.  If it fits, as we are pursuing the life that we want, it will stick.  If not, it will fall away.  We can only control ourselves.  We need to keep out minds eye on the life that we want; reevaluating, adapting, and continuously moving along the way.

Just a thought…

May your day be touched by a bit of Irish luck!

Love, Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Having the perfect life in a perfect world…