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Fill the Negative with the Positive!

A reader wrote to me, and wanted to share what she learned from Al-Anon saying that she used it not only to help her family member but also to help herself.

“It comes from my little “One day at a time in Al-Anon” book

(AA is for the alcoholic; Al-Anon is for the family of the alcoholic)

Before AA comes into the life of an alcoholic, and before Al-Anon reveals a new way of life to us, correcting one’s faults seemed to depend entirely on will power, directed at eliminating them.

Bad habits and compulsions cannot be conquered by determined resolutions or promising ourselves that we won’t go on doing this or that.  They cannot be rooted out – for what would fill that vacuum?  They must be replaced – with their opposites.  The secret is to substitute the positive for the negative – the I will for the I won’t.

Today’s reminder:

If I am morose and discontented, I will deliberately cultivate happy thoughts.  If I am prone to criticize, I will seek out what is good and pleasing and fix my mind on that.   I will replace my fruitless doubts and fears with faith and confidence.  If I am bored, I will learn something new – even a new way to make the same old chores more enjoyable.”

So let us digg all of those negative thoughts, feelings, actions, words, out of our body, mind, and soul!  And make a conscious effort to fill up and seek out the positive in everything we do, say, and feel!

Just a thought!

Love, Goldi

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Searching for the perfect life in a perfect world…


Improve!

If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.

Epictetus

I feel foolish and stupid most of the time…I am not sure why I am not content with accepting my life as it is, but I am working on it.  I realize now that I have to take a step back and let things unfold as I go, knowing that I do not see the whole picture, and that I can not control everything or really anything but myself.  I am however a champion at seeing what can be, and I am great at taking steps in the direction that I want to go.  Sometimes I achieve and sometime I don’t, but I keep on trying…creating new and different dreams.  My creations were always about making a living. Such as I can do this because it will produce an income stream that will support my family. To…they said I could not do it, so now I have too.  To…this will help my friends, and we will have fun along the way.  Some of my decisions were brilliantly foolish and stupid, and others were just foolish and stupid!

This is the first time that I have thought about what I want my life to look like?  What do I think a perfect life looks like?  …and, will I allow myself to have a perfect life? It has been a struggle.  Some days are easy, because it is what I want to do, and other days are hard because I am still living in my former life, and it seems to take time with obligations, some of which you want to see through, and others that you would just like to pull the band aid and have it over with.  At what point do you stop with the old and completely move on with the new?  Is it a pulling apart that just takes ease and patience, pulling slowly and gently as you are moving over the delicate areas?

I guess that is it.  Are lives are so intwine with so many others, that unless you do not care where anyone else lands that is associated with you, or of the consequences, that it is going to take time. We will have to keep adapting, evolving, and improving along the way. Going with the flow, but always with the goal in mind, knowing that we will get there!

Just a thought!

Love, Goldi

GoldilocksBlog

Searching for a perfect life in a perfect world…

Goldilocks Call For Action

Looking for the Good!  Seeing the Good!  Watching for the Good!

We are all the same, and yet different.  We are all beautiful and yet ugly.  We are all good and yet bad.  When we turn on the news however 99% of what is reported is of caution, is horrific in nature, and is of ugliness in the world.  So I need your help! I want to see and hear about the good, and the beauty of people in our world around us.  I want to focus on that!  Send me stories! Send me photos! If you know of someone who inspires you, who is doing good deeds, or if you see anything or know of anything in the world that is positive please let me know in an email or as a comment.  It can be as small as today I saw the man in front of me pay for a lunch of someone in need, or I saw the most beautiful flower, or of larger things like a country like Bhutan with their Gross National Happiness, or of someone who is capable of moving mountains with good deeds, like Oprah, but who I have just not yet talked (blogged) about.

Lets Talk about it!  Lets See it!  Lets do it!  Lets focus on the positive and work from the place, the assumption, and the perspective that we are all good, beautiful, and are perfectly imperfect now! Just as we are! If we look, we will see it!  If we see it, it will grow!

Just a thought!

Love,

Goldi

Goldilocks Blog

Searching for the perfect life in a perfect world…