The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.
–Henry Ward Beecher
Last night I finished Eric Weiners book – The Geography of Bliss, One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World. I have to say that I know longer feel the need to travel to the happiest places in the world, even though I still want to. I think I finally really get it. Happiness is within us. It is not outside of us. Thats why poor people can be happy and the wealthy can be miserable. We really do create own joy and misery in our minds and hearts. It is what we perceive.
The other day when I was down, and I doing the “poor me” thing to my mother. She said, “Today you are fine, don’t worry about tomorrow.” Then she changed the subject. I immediately became defensive and wanted to argue with her about all the reasons why I should be miserable. But, before I spoke, a thought popped into my head, may be it’s all of my self help talk; It said to me, “Do you really want to be right this time?” “Do you want to be miserable?” “Do you want to argue that you are?” So I didn’t say anything to her, I don’t want to be miserable, and I dont want to be right that I am, and as I let her ramble on about nothing. I thought about what she said before. Right now at this very moment – I am fine.
So I am focusing on all of the things that I have to be grateful for right now. It is surprising how big a list that you can make when you are looking for it. And, if you are grateful, how can you not be happy!
For more on Eric Weiner http://www.ericweinerbooks.com
Just a thought…
Having the perfect life in a perfect world…
Year’s Resolutions, isn’t it just another name for self-improvement, or self-help? I want us to go beyond the losing weight, saving money, or any other top New Year’s Resolution. I want us to be happy, and doesn’t being happy encompasses many things. If we were truly happy, wouldn’t it be easier to lose New weight, or to stop smoking etc. I know when I am happy I seem to be more productive. I get more tasks accomplished in one day. Which includes exercising, being proactive in my goals, and being more “there” with my family. We tend to live larger!
To be happy we need to connect with our inner bliss our inner purpose. When we connect to that which we know is the right path, the right direction, the right goal or dream… we feel that inner bliss. We feel love.
If you do not already know…keep asking yourself this question; What does my perfect life look like, In all directions? If you have your answer and all ready know your true essence and purpose, keep directing your life in that direction. Your happiness will bring all that you want, and then some… Just a thought!
Having a perfect life in a perfect world…
I met a man in his early 50’s, a few weeks ago, who was driving a 77 dusty blue corvette. His license tag read Since 77. Durning my conversation with him he said that people often assumed that he had owned the car since 1977, and would come up to him to talk him about it. He said the truth was that he had been with his wife since 77, not the car. The car was just a bonus.
He had been happily married since he was 19. They had children and grandchildren, and he had retired early to Asheville, NC. I questioned him a little more, always wanting to hear more of a love story, and he seemed happy with his life and his choices. In fact, he was smiling when he announced that today was his anniversary!
Wishing them 32 more, happy, years together!
Searching for a perfect life in a perfect world…