Someone once said to me that Love is a choice, and being a woman with so much feeling and emotion, I disagreed with him. Years have gone by since then, busy running through my life, and now that I am trying to be still more, and have taken a step back to observe and listen, I think that he is right. I watch and listen to my married friends, and friends in relationships, and I see that with just a change in perception, a choice, that things including feelings would be so much better.
I listen to men and women complain about their spouse or significant other, about what they do or don’t do and how it makes them feel. But what about what they do… It is very easy a single person to see this, because we do not have anyone doing anything for us. So women and men appreciate all that your spouse or significant other does for you. If they bring you so much as a glass of water, or carry your dishes to the sink, or if they have a job that helps support your household, then love them, appreciate them. If they stay home with children, clean your home, do your laundry, pay your bills, love them, appreciate them. If they are sick or unable to do anything but love you, love them, and appreciate them. If you’re unhappy still, do not blame your partner, make changes to do things that will bring joy to your life. Choose happiness, choose to focus and appreciate what you do have.
If you are still not getting it, think about it this way… imagine for a moment that you are alone, homeless, and wondering where your next meal was coming from, really think about how you would feel. Wouldn’t you appreciate all that you have now? Wouldn’t you really appreciate all that the other person is giving you now, as a great gift? Don’t worry about the little things. They are just that, little things. If you have a roof over your head, food in the pantry, and someone who cares if you make it home at night… you are blessed! It is your perception that needs to change. So choose to appreciate and love the one your with!
Just a thought!
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