Goldilocks &#187; Love

Goldilocks — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 15:37:12 +0000

They can because they think they can. – Virgil

The bird that sings before dawn, the farmer who plants a seed, the entrepreneur who starts a business, the individual who dines at a restaurant, are all forms of faith. The sun will rise, the seed will grow, the business will begin, and the food will be sustaining. We have faith on so many levels without question. We would never think that the sun may not rise, and stay up worrying night after night. Nor would we walk into a restaurant, sit down, order food, and begin to eat what we wonder might harm us. Again, we believe and have faith without question.

It’s this faith, that we must believe in ourselves, without question. That what we desire, we can do – we can!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

Desperation

Goldilocks — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:22:54 +0000

Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. - Henry David Thoreau

To despair is to give up on hope. I, admittedly, have been guilty of the crippling feelings of desperation in my life. Desperate that I would never find love; work that would fulfill me, or if I would ever “just be” happy with myself. In this despair I made choices. Choices that with hindsight, lead to more unhappiness. Grasping at whatever, for that little scrap of desire… Love, Financial Security, etc. Selling myself short – spiraling and further fueling a life of, seemingly, more desperation. Despair can makes you feel as if you don’t have a choice, when deep down, we know, that we always do.

Choose love, and choose to love yourself first. Get help if you need to. Do whatever it takes. Don’t suffer quietly. Speak – be heard. Do whatever it is that you long to do. Sing your song!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

Sunrise

Goldilocks — Sat, 26 Jun 2010 13:57:25 +0000

All the windows to my heart I open to the day – John Whittier

A beautiful sunrise reminds us of the possibilities that this brand new day brings, with the gratitude that were alive, and the hope of what will be.

Sending love to all of you with all my heart…, have a wonderful day!

Goldi

Organic Soul

Goldilocks — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 15:04:04 +0000

I’m not sure if my fears faced me or if I faced my fears… In my youth I merrily skipped around, unaware of anything that wasn’t beautiful. I felt secure in my home with my parents, and I lived in this fairy tale world in my mind – life was good. As I became older fears were dispensed to me. “Prepare for the future.” “Beware” of so many things. I became cautious, defensive; looking for the negative, so I could protect myself.

In reality, I created all that I feared. My reasoning mind had told me I was doing all the “right” things, and now I realize that what I had thought of as my delusional youthful spirt, was the way I should have been living. With joy in my heart, the fearlessness to do anything; and that I was protected in a way, that what wasn’t best for me, wouldn’t work out.

I wish I would have woke up to these facts so much sooner. My life would have flowed so much easier. I wouldn’t reason why this or that didn’t happen, or why this person or that person didn’t love me. I wouldn’t of taken it personally. I would have faith that something better was in store for me. I guess I shouldn’t use the word “better”, because the people and opportunities that passed- were good, but they were not what was “just right” for me.

My organic soul is now living more simply, healthily, and close to natures flow. Meaning that I still have goals, and wants, and desires…, and I’m taking steps and making effort to get to where I want, but if the door doesn’t open when I knock, I have faith that if I keep on knocking that the door that does open, will be what’s “just right” for me, or at least, lead me in the direction of where I need to go.

Remember to listen to your gut, follow your intuition, and stay organic and true to you!

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

PS… I know I’ve been away for a while, but I went through all my belongings, I’ve downsized, and moved. It feels great – lighter, freeing! Thanks for keeping with me! With Love and Gratitude! Goldi

With a little help from my friends… Thank You

Goldilocks — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 01:59:36 +0000

It”s late, and I’m tired… I’m however sitting outside of Barnes & Noble in beautiful Asheville NC in Biltmore Park Town Square. I’m doing this because I’m in the middle of a move, I have no internet, and I realize that its been awhile since I’ve blogged, and blogging is what I love doing. This move that I’m making, is part of my transition into my new life. I wish I could just press a button and be totally transformed into the life of my dreams, but we all know it doesn’t work that way. We have to know where we want to go, and then take the steps that take us there. This is one of my steps. It feels great, are there are surprises along the way, that make it even better. For me the surprise came in the form of friends who stepped in to not only help, but to drag me away from it when it was needed. I have a hard time asking for or even accepting help when offered… I guess I’m embarrassed that I need the help, but the support felt great, and carried me forward for a few more days. I hope to try that again…

It’s fabulous out here, the night is cool, people are walking around, and I hear music in the background. I think I’m going to take a little time out to enjoy the moment.

Hope your headed towards your “just right” life!

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Reaching Past our Expectations

Goldilocks — Sat, 29 May 2010 13:53:33 +0000

Would you believe me if I told you that I know a man, who is a Realtor, and like most Realtors, he recently had to reinvent himself. This Realtor packaged him self up, promoted his services in marketing and business, and sold himself to one of the top attorneys offices in his area as a consultant. They liked and believe in him so much that right now, in this economy, with so many qualified applicants per job, are not only going to pay him a salary, but will pay for his schooling to become a lawyer, AND guarantee him a job after. He announced this only after receiving his acceptance to Law School.

Now this is not an average man. He believes in himself. He believed that he could make things happen. He went to this job dressed impeccably, he takes care of himself and he obviously continued to hold these high standards in his work. But how many of us would of possibly made it in the door as a consultant, and then stopped, thinking that we did well. We would possibly of congratulated ourselves for making it that far, which I guess in this job market would be something to celebrate, but for many that would be it.

Is it possible that we are not reaching far enough? Do we settle because we think that’s as good as we can get? If someone told you that they were going to pay you a salary, pay for you to go to school, and guarantee you a job when you got out, would you believe them? I know, Its hard to believe in this economy that its happened to anyone, much less ourselves, but believe – because it happened…

I personally will forever more, not doubt, even on the tiniest level that anything is possible.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

The Greatest Gift

Goldilocks — Thu, 27 May 2010 20:49:51 +0000

It’s more important than money, a job, or even love. Its the most important thing. Without it we have nothing – literally. Its our health. Take that moment to exercise, or to have a peaceful and relaxing cup of coffee on the porch. Whatever you need for your mental and/or physical health – do it!

I told this recently to my brother who had a heart attack a few months ago, and he argued back that he was tired of hearing about people who take care of just themselves, because then he is the one who ends up needing to help them all. I agreed that some people take it to far, and we all do need help from time to time. After hearing the stress in his voice, I reminded him that if he didn’t start taking care of himself, he wouldn’t be around to take care of anybody… take care of yourself first, so that you can take care of others.

My mother is 70 years old, works, travels the world, and is always positive, happy and upbeat; and she shows no signs of stopping. What a gift she is giving me by taking care of herself, so that I don’t have to…

I’m sure you have at least one family member who you take care of that you wish would of taken care of themselves. Use that memory if you have to, so that you don’t feel guilty, of how taking care of yourself is really the greatest gift you can give to those you love.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

Fair Play to Those who Dare to Dream

Goldilocks — Sat, 22 May 2010 00:17:58 +0000

Last night I had the pleasure to hear and see The Swell Season - live at The Orange Peel, in Asheville NC. The brilliant and passionate Glen Hansard, the beautiful and talented Marketa Irglova, and the superb sounds from violinist Colm Mac Con Iomaire, perfectly compliment each other. The whole band was actually fabulous. They were… real, and it’s that honesty in their performance that originally made me an instant fan, after seeing the movie Once. A movie that both Glen and Marketa starred in, and then subsequently won an Oscar for Best Original Song “Falling Slowly”. Which all reminded me of how moved I was by Marketa’s acceptance speech; she said, receiving the award was a big moment for all artist. Most of whom spend their time struggling. The fact that she was standing there holding an Oscar in her hand, meant that no matter how far out your dreams are – it’s possible. Fair play for those who dare to dream – don’t give up! Hope at the end of the day connects us all no matter how different we are.

Cheers to Glen, Marketa, The Swell Season and anyone living their dream!

Some pics from concert below… Love, Goldi

Dan Coyle – Something\’s Changed – Link to You Tube Video

Dan Coyle – Somethings Changed – A Candid Interview

Goldilocks — Sat, 15 May 2010 01:37:28 +0000

Dan Coyle is a nationally touring musician…, something changed inside of me as I watched Dan’s candid video, and then listened to his honest and sincere responses to my questions – his passion and inspiring story blew me away.

Dan was born and raised in a blue collar household near Buffalo New York. He felt from an early age that he was suppose to be on a path, he just didn’t know what it was. Dan often felt like an outsider in his own town, their were terrific people there, he said, he just didn’t feel like he fit. Sometimes Dan escaped this world, with written words in one form or another. It was his way of expressing himself, while still keeping it to himself, and would later use this talent to write his songs. Dan was the first person in his family to go to College, and it was there that he quickly found the theater community, and where he picked up his first guitar. He found his voice, as he taught himself to play, listening to the Beatles, while creating his own unique and authentic sound. It came easy to him – he had found the path that he needed to take.

After graduation in 2004 he moved to Chicago, and in 2006, after a lot of hard work, the doors started swinging open for him. He had two studio cds and toured across the country, but as the opportunities popped up, Dan told me, so did the fear. He heard all the voices of people telling him, all the reasons why things wouldn’t work. Trying to please everyone, and not pleasing himself. It became a really hard time in his life, so he took time off to figure things out, to get himself settled down and thinking clearly. That experience he felt made him more introspective, and I believe was the final piece that gives him the truth to his voice, and his depth today.

When asked about living his dream Dan modestly said, that he would say that he is one of the riches people he knows, not financially, but he definitely feels like he is living no one else’s dream. He says that he truly believes that the only thing you can do for me is to make yourself happy, and the only thing I can do for you is to make myself happy. Dan said that it may sounds selfish, but it’s really the most selfless act. We need to take the time and effort to make ourselves happy because that radiates out to people. When he does something now, he’s doing it for the right reasons, not blindly or mindlessly – it’s purposeful, and inspired.

I then asked, what would he tell someone that’s at a crossroad in life teetering between the safe choices, meaning the path that everyone tells you to take, and the path that feels right to you? Dan laughed and said that he seemed to attract a lot of people who are at the crossroads of life, and then went on to say, if your at a crossroad then that means your standing still, but time isn’t. So first you need to determine your world view. Is your world friendly or hostile? You need to get this right. With a friendly world view you’re going to radiate that feeling out-word, and people become coconspirators, and they help you in some way. Even if they are less than friendly, they are still helping you in someway. You get a refection of how your feeling inside. In a friendly world, you will also help others.

Most of us know very few things, and we don’t know what the future will bring. Everyone nods there head, like they understand, but very few people act like that, and live like that from day to day. Instead they take the dream that they have, and demean it. They focus on everything that could go wrong if they were to try it, when they don’t have any reason to know that things will go wrong. Very few people give equal time and energy to the thought of “what if everything were to go flawlessly” or “everything will work out just as it should” – how about that idea! How about following your dream, and following it, because it is your dream!

What I always keep going back to is, the only thing I can do for you is to make myself happy, and only thing you can do for me is to make yourself happy. If your not doing that, you are holding humanity back. I firmly believe that, and the only way we are going to evolve in a meaningful way, is for people to start listening to what it is that they truly want to do, because anyone who has that “knowing” and they don’t follow it – it’s wrong – to themselves, to their abilities, to everyone around them, and to humanity as a whole. They are holding back – like they have a fire that could burn at a 1000 degrees, but they don’t know what will happen, so they only live at about half. It’s the most hideous thing people can do. There are so many people who don’t know what they want to do and they search and they struggle to know. So if you are a person who knows, it’s up to you to own it, to pursue that dream. Because you don’t know how it will affect the world. You need to fulfill it, and realize that your doubts and fears are your traitors. Find a prison cell to put them in, or find a way to get rid of those things that you’re afraid of, because someday we will look back at these things that we didn’t do. I’m a firm believer that our fears of today will become out regrets of tomorrow. Stay in the presence of what you want to do, you will radiate enough positive energy that things will start to happen. If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for the rest of us, because you need to fulfill your purpose. I think humanity has been held back enough by people who have felt a purpose or calling and turned their head the other way for whatever reason – you have to listen to your heart, you need to pursue your dream. I have a lot riding on convincing you of this, we all have a lot riding on convincing you of this. Its the only way that this world will move on in a better way.

We have to remember that before anything was invented or achieved no one thought that it could be done. The airplane wasn’t invented by a group of people sitting around saying how it was impossible to fly. They said -how, is it possible. For whatever strange reason, they were compelled to find a way to fly people in the air from point A, to point B, safely. Think about what everyone must of said about that dream. Everyone must of thought that they were insane, but they had to say, I’m going to find a way to make it happen. For some strange reason they were compelled to figure that out. Thank God that they did! Your dreams are the same, even if you don’t think they affect someone else, or people, on a global scale – they do, its a domino effect… every thing you do, every kind word, or every time you inspire or make someone happy, it keeps going. You don’t know who it inspired, and who they are going to inspire, that passes it on to someone else, every time you make someone happy you don’t know where that energy is going. Thats what I would tell someone at the crossroads…

Dan thanks me, for sending him the questions and listing to his 40 min audio response, and then tells me he appreciates me, all the while I’m sitting here in awe, listening with gratitude, and thanking him, for his inspiring story.

Dan begins his summer tour soon…For More of Dan Coyle – Links

Website: www.dancoyle.com

Twitter: www.twitter.com/dan_coyle

Facebook: http://bit.ly/dcXazX

Weekly Podcast: http://bit.ly/bxq1Zx

iTunes Digital Downloads: http://bit.ly/a8gfta

Hope you enjoyed this as much as I did!

Love,

Goldi