Indecision – stops you.  You can get to where you want to go, but only if you know where your going.  Vacillating back and forth, wavering,…thinking, thinking, thinking, is not going to take you anywhere.  You must take action!

If you read my last post, you will [...]]]> Indecision may or may not be my problem.  Jimmy Buffett

Indecision – stops you.  You can get to where you want to go, but only if you know where your going.  Vacillating back and forth, wavering,…thinking, thinking, thinking, is not going to take you anywhere.  You must take action!

If you read my last post, you will remember that there are a number of moves, that can get you where you want to go.  So don’t put so much weight on the perfect thought out plan, most likely, things are going to change throughout your journey.  What you need to remember is where you want to go, and keep making your decisions from that basis.  Is this choice going to lead me where I want to go. If the answer is yes, then head in that direction, if the answer is no, unless your changing your goal or dream – don’t follow that path.  Do make a plan, just don’t delay taking action because every step is not guaranteed.

Guarantee’s, sometimes, keep us from taking that first step, or following through with the next move.  We sometimes feel if we had a guarantee that our dream will work, and a definite step by step plan to follow, then we would proceed; but because our dreams don’t have guarantees, sometimes we fail to make our move.  Our only guarantee is this moment right now, so the question becomes, how do you want to live your life now?

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

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Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of [...]]]> Henley – Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

Your mind creates the world you live in. Accept people and situations for what they are – just people, and just situations, that are coming from many other actions and reactions.  Step out of the drama. Control your emotions. Control your thoughts. Control your mind. You don’t have to react to aggression with aggression.   You don’t have to mirror or agree with the thoughts coming at you. You don’t have to agree with the opinion of others. You can accomplish what you want to achieve. You must stay stead fast in your own mind with the purpose of the life you want. Look toward that ultimate life. Remember what you want; a life of true happiness (add your own details here) . Purposely direct or change your thoughts and actions. Choose how to respond; react… and live with honor, and the purpose of becoming the better you.

May you always find yourself unafraid, mastering your fate, and captaining your soul.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

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Life brings changes… some good, some bad, some totally unexpected.  A year ago my plans of what my life would be like right now, are so much different than the reality of what is.  Many of us are going through [...]]]> “If we had all the answers, then we wouldn’t need to write our own story.” Mike

Life brings changes… some good, some bad, some totally unexpected.  A year ago my plans of what my life would be like right now, are so much different than the reality of what is.  Many of us are going through major transitions right now; children starting school, children going off to college, becoming an empty nester, divorce, marriage, job loss, foreclosures, bankruptcy, etc.  Some of us may be going through two or three of these. Some of the changes are good and are a necessary progression in life, and even those transitions can feel challenging at times. The trick as “my man” Mike reminds me, is that we have to continue to write our own story.  To face the challenges, and to create our own positive spin.  Every dark cloud, every obstacle, every transition, can be turned into something better than you could ever of imagined.  As the challenges and transitions have come, so does the good.  Focus on what opportunities you now have during this an every transition that comes your way. Remember to keep adapting, rewriting your story as you go,  keeping the focus on your “just right” life, the life that is perfect for you.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

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The bird that sings before dawn, the farmer who plants a seed, the entrepreneur who starts a business, the individual who dines at a restaurant, are all forms of faith. The sun will rise, the seed will grow, the business will begin, and the food will be [...]]]> They can because they think they can. – Virgil

The bird that sings before dawn, the farmer who plants a seed, the entrepreneur who starts a business, the individual who dines at a restaurant, are all forms of faith. The sun will rise, the seed will grow, the business will begin, and the food will be sustaining. We have faith on so many levels without question. We would never think that the sun may not rise, and stay up worrying night after night. Nor would we walk into a restaurant, sit down, order food, and begin to eat what we wonder might harm us.  Again, we believe and have faith without question.

It’s this faith, that we must believe in ourselves, without question.  That what we desire, we can do – we can!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

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To despair is to give up on hope. I, admittedly, have been guilty of the crippling feelings of desperation in my life.  Desperate that I would never find love; work that would fulfill [...]]]> Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.  - Henry David Thoreau

To despair is to give up on hope. I, admittedly, have been guilty of the crippling feelings of desperation in my life.  Desperate that I would never find love; work that would fulfill me, or if I would ever “just be” happy with myself.  In this despair I made choices.  Choices that with hindsight, lead to more unhappiness.  Grasping at whatever, for that little scrap of desire… Love, Financial Security, etc. Selling myself short – spiraling and further fueling a life of, seemingly, more desperation.  Despair can makes you feel as if you don’t have a choice,  when deep down, we know, that we always do.

Choose love, and choose to love yourself first.  Get help if you need to. Do whatever it takes.  Don’t suffer quietly.  Speak – be heard.  Do whatever it is that you long to do.  Sing your song!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

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When I turned 29 I worried for a whole year about turning 30.  Thirty was my scary age.  Seems kind of funny now, but I was frantic everyday for a year.  I asked myself questions like; “What have I done with my life?”  “Am [...]]]> “Nothing is permanent in this wicked world—not even our troubles.”- Charlie Chaplin

When I turned 29 I worried for a whole year about turning 30.  Thirty was my scary age.  Seems kind of funny now, but I was frantic everyday for a year.  I asked myself questions like; “What have I done with my life?”  “Am I heading in the right direction?”  Questions upon questions until the day of my thirtieth birthday where luckily reality hit me, that day, was no different from the day before.  I had wasted a whole year, worrying about turning an age that I shouldn’t have been worried about.  The gift it gave me however, is that I’ll never worry about another birthday, and I will forevermore not consider myself old. Well, at least until I’m about 90. 

Unfortunately though, I didn’t learn the whole lesson, and was reminded again with the loss of love, and my financial future; sacrificing to accumulate, and reinvesting to prepare, trying to protect myself from what I didn’t think I could handle.  But,…when life happens, you do…, you handle it.

You learn to adapt and move on, and yes, you can make it harder on yourself by saying “why me” or “poor me”,  I know because – I did.  But, does it really serve us?  Do we really “own” anything? Our cars, our homes, our jobs, our loves, our life, isn’t it all temporary?  Yes, we can do things to “try” to protect ourselves, and we should; Like exercising to stay healthy, educating ourselves for the better job, loving and spending time with who we love, maintaing our homes and cars. But what we really need to do is RELAX-enjoy the moments.

Live your life doing something that you love, or something that allows you time, to do what you love.  Don’t give anything to much weight – the highs and the lows. Be extreme in your passion only, where by doing it gives you joy. Everything else in life should be done with moderation – no extremes.  Remember the best is “Goldilocks Way” somewhere in the middle.  Not my middle, or your friends middle, but your middle of what’s “just right”  for you, in every area of your life.

Just a thought…

With Love, Goldi

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