Goldilocks &#187; Goldilocks

Goldilocks — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 15:37:12 +0000

They can because they think they can. – Virgil

The bird that sings before dawn, the farmer who plants a seed, the entrepreneur who starts a business, the individual who dines at a restaurant, are all forms of faith. The sun will rise, the seed will grow, the business will begin, and the food will be sustaining. We have faith on so many levels without question. We would never think that the sun may not rise, and stay up worrying night after night. Nor would we walk into a restaurant, sit down, order food, and begin to eat what we wonder might harm us. Again, we believe and have faith without question.

It’s this faith, that we must believe in ourselves, without question. That what we desire, we can do – we can!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

Desperation

Goldilocks — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 20:22:54 +0000

Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them. - Henry David Thoreau

To despair is to give up on hope. I, admittedly, have been guilty of the crippling feelings of desperation in my life. Desperate that I would never find love; work that would fulfill me, or if I would ever “just be” happy with myself. In this despair I made choices. Choices that with hindsight, lead to more unhappiness. Grasping at whatever, for that little scrap of desire… Love, Financial Security, etc. Selling myself short – spiraling and further fueling a life of, seemingly, more desperation. Despair can makes you feel as if you don’t have a choice, when deep down, we know, that we always do.

Choose love, and choose to love yourself first. Get help if you need to. Do whatever it takes. Don’t suffer quietly. Speak – be heard. Do whatever it is that you long to do. Sing your song!

Just a thought…

Love,

Goldi

Organic Soul

Goldilocks — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 15:04:04 +0000

I’m not sure if my fears faced me or if I faced my fears… In my youth I merrily skipped around, unaware of anything that wasn’t beautiful. I felt secure in my home with my parents, and I lived in this fairy tale world in my mind – life was good. As I became older fears were dispensed to me. “Prepare for the future.” “Beware” of so many things. I became cautious, defensive; looking for the negative, so I could protect myself.

In reality, I created all that I feared. My reasoning mind had told me I was doing all the “right” things, and now I realize that what I had thought of as my delusional youthful spirt, was the way I should have been living. With joy in my heart, the fearlessness to do anything; and that I was protected in a way, that what wasn’t best for me, wouldn’t work out.

I wish I would have woke up to these facts so much sooner. My life would have flowed so much easier. I wouldn’t reason why this or that didn’t happen, or why this person or that person didn’t love me. I wouldn’t of taken it personally. I would have faith that something better was in store for me. I guess I shouldn’t use the word “better”, because the people and opportunities that passed- were good, but they were not what was “just right” for me.

My organic soul is now living more simply, healthily, and close to natures flow. Meaning that I still have goals, and wants, and desires…, and I’m taking steps and making effort to get to where I want, but if the door doesn’t open when I knock, I have faith that if I keep on knocking that the door that does open, will be what’s “just right” for me, or at least, lead me in the direction of where I need to go.

Remember to listen to your gut, follow your intuition, and stay organic and true to you!

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

PS… I know I’ve been away for a while, but I went through all my belongings, I’ve downsized, and moved. It feels great – lighter, freeing! Thanks for keeping with me! With Love and Gratitude! Goldi

With a little help from my friends… Thank You

Goldilocks — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 01:59:36 +0000

It”s late, and I’m tired… I’m however sitting outside of Barnes & Noble in beautiful Asheville NC in Biltmore Park Town Square. I’m doing this because I’m in the middle of a move, I have no internet, and I realize that its been awhile since I’ve blogged, and blogging is what I love doing. This move that I’m making, is part of my transition into my new life. I wish I could just press a button and be totally transformed into the life of my dreams, but we all know it doesn’t work that way. We have to know where we want to go, and then take the steps that take us there. This is one of my steps. It feels great, are there are surprises along the way, that make it even better. For me the surprise came in the form of friends who stepped in to not only help, but to drag me away from it when it was needed. I have a hard time asking for or even accepting help when offered… I guess I’m embarrassed that I need the help, but the support felt great, and carried me forward for a few more days. I hope to try that again…

It’s fabulous out here, the night is cool, people are walking around, and I hear music in the background. I think I’m going to take a little time out to enjoy the moment.

Hope your headed towards your “just right” life!

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Nothing Lasts Forever-Enjoy-Live!

Goldilocks — Fri, 07 May 2010 19:21:23 +0000

“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world—not even our troubles.”- Charlie Chaplin

When I turned 29 I worried for a whole year about turning 30. Thirty was my scary age. Seems kind of funny now, but I was frantic everyday for a year. I asked myself questions like; “What have I done with my life?” “Am I heading in the right direction?” Questions upon questions until the day of my thirtieth birthday where luckily reality hit me, that day, was no different from the day before. I had wasted a whole year, worrying about turning an age that I shouldn’t have been worried about. The gift it gave me however, is that I’ll never worry about another birthday, and I will forevermore not consider myself old. Well, at least until I’m about 90.

Unfortunately though, I didn’t learn the whole lesson, and was reminded again with the loss of love, and my financial future; sacrificing to accumulate, and reinvesting to prepare, trying to protect myself from what I didn’t think I could handle. But,…when life happens, you do…, you handle it.

You learn to adapt and move on, and yes, you can make it harder on yourself by saying “why me” or “poor me”, I know because – I did. But, does it really serve us? Do we really “own” anything? Our cars, our homes, our jobs, our loves, our life, isn’t it all temporary? Yes, we can do things to “try” to protect ourselves, and we should; Like exercising to stay healthy, educating ourselves for the better job, loving and spending time with who we love, maintaing our homes and cars. But what we really need to do is RELAX-enjoy the moments.

Live your life doing something that you love, or something that allows you time, to do what you love. Don’t give anything to much weight – the highs and the lows. Be extreme in your passion only, where by doing it gives you joy. Everything else in life should be done with moderation – no extremes. Remember the best is “Goldilocks Way” somewhere in the middle. Not my middle, or your friends middle, but your middle of what’s “just right” for you, in every area of your life.

Just a thought…

With Love, Goldi

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Take Rest

Goldilocks — Tue, 04 May 2010 15:06:52 +0000

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and I told her how for the last two years, I’ve kind of sequestered myself, voiding relationships and friends, until I could discover who I was without outside influences. She laughed and said, “You know thats what they do with people when they’re committed. They put them in a place where they can be by themselves for a few weeks. They are not allowed to see any family or friends, not knowing where the problem is coming from.” I laughed to myself thinking that I was relating to someone that was committed, and having felt a little insane in the last few months, was not all that comforting of a thought.

My feeling of insanity however is only coming because I’m doing things differently, that I have done before. I am in fact, insanely happy, so at the moment, I don’t care. My life has been spent doing all the things “I should do” vs doing the things I wanted to do. I still have obligations so I’m still not doing everything that I want to do, but I think that’s a good thing. As in all things no extreme is good; a totally hedonistic life vs one of servitude, “Goldilocks way” will prevail. I’m not taking the safest way, but I’m taking the path that brings me joy. I’m writing, blogging, and taking care of myself with more rest and relaxation, exercise, healthy food choices, and choosing the friends I want to spend time with. Friends and family who inspire. I have no real income, and thats the scary part, and why I feel a little insane. I’ve been an entrepreneur for the last fifteen years so I’m familiar with taking risk, but in the risk I took before, I saw a definite way to earn money. In fact, that is why I chose to pursue those ventures; I was miserable, and I felt that life needed to go.

Life truly is too short to spend being miserable. So I’m smiling, I’m breathing, and I’m going more slowly, all the while realizing how much time I’ve wasted and not wasting another minute. I remind myself of a quote:

“Take rest, a field that is rested gives a bountiful crop.” Ovid

I’m giving myself time to do what I need to do for me, and I just know, the bountiful crop will come.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

Creating a perfect life in a perfect world…

Fairy tales – Real or Rumor?

Goldilocks — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:18:46 +0000

“‘Know thy self’ may not be the best; A pinch of self-delusion it turns out is an important ingredient in the happiness recipe.” – Eric Weiner quote via twitter@bmccall17

Once upon a time a friend of mine posted on her facebook page, “Fairy tales don’t exist…reality does…” Which of course prompted me (Goldilocks) to post; “I believe”. And yes, I have wondered if I’ve become a little delusional… I did do some deep soul searching, and I have been looking for, finding, and then spewing positive “self help” information and ideas, all of which has made me happier, and I hope, has helped you too! However, I think the key ingredient for me, was to put myself in a reality that was different from the one that I was living… so call me delusional in my fairy tale world, I don’t care, because – it works – I’m happy.

Wishing that you create your own happy fairy tale reality, where nothing is too good to come true.

Just a thought…

With love for you and your dreams,

Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Creating my perfect life in a perfect world…

It’s not about you, It’s about me – Self Love

Goldilocks — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 15:07:20 +0000

I think we spend too much time thinking about what another person is thinking – what’s their motive, where are they going, how do I fit in? Unfortunately I found most people either to be very self absorbed, where everything is about them, and they take, take, take; or they are givers who are self sacrificing and never thinking of themselves.

Deep in thought and introspection, I realized why this is… I’m a giver, and I’ve given with my whole heart and soul, which I always thought was a good thing. I prided myself on my generosity and patted myself on the back because of it. Feeling good and super human, I gave, gave, gave, until I had nothing left to give. My epiphany was, as a selfless giver, who else was I going to find and attract… a taker needs a giver – a giver needs a taker.

As Goldilocks wandering out in the woods, searching to find her “just right” place, home, food, chair, bed, life, etc. I realized that it’s not about them, it’s about me. Why didn’t I love myself enough to think about what is best for me? What was it that I wanted? It didn’t matter what they were thinking or what their motives were, I couldn’t control them, I only could control me.

As I started taking care of myself, I became happy again, and started attracting great people. People who are both givers and takers, as in most things, what is usually best or “just right”, is somewhere in the middle.

It’s good to give, but it’s also good to receive – not taking or giving, too much or too little.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi

www.GoldilocksBlog.com

Creating my “just right” life…

The Perfect Life = A Life You Don’t Need to Escape From

Goldilocks — Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:59:17 +0000

“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” Seth Godin

I love what I am doing. I could sit here all day long blogging, writing, exploring places that I want to travel too, and how I am going to make it possible to live my dream. I love it so much so, that at times I have to force myself to step away, to interact with friends. I guess the pull is so strong because for years I was miserable doing “all the right things”. Things that friends and family expected of me, and was more the norm.

I’m not going to lie. I have moments where I think I may be crazy, because my new life is going against the way I have lived for years, and I wonder if I will make it. But, I am happy for the first time in years, and that seems rather priceless to me right now.

Money and your material possessions can be taking away from you, how you feel inside can not. Isn’t it time we started focusing on what brings us joy, start working our passion, and creating the lives that we want.

Just a thought…

Love, Goldi